I used to put a lot of pressure on myself especially when it comes to my professional life. I remember that if I wasn’t convinced about something I created, I wouldn’t share it. Even when I was still a student! Because I was afraid of failure. Afraid that people might think I wasn’t talented enough.
I thought this may tarnish my image & reputation and that people would think I didn’t deserve my job title or my job and they wouldn’t work with me anymore.
But one day, I was stuck: I was working as a freelancer on a mission for an important client of a communication agency I used to work with. But I had no inspiration and the clock was ticking. I started to get nervous. Then, a colleague noticed that I was stressed out and came to me.
I had no other option than showing an unfinished work I wasn’t satisfied with. And you know what? He didn’t judge me. He didn’t think I wasn’t talented. He didn’t think I was not the right person for the job. He helped me.
We sat down together, took a look at what I did and shared ideas. And then, no more stress, no more pressure. No more « blank page syndrome ».
At that moment, I understood that there’s no shame in asking for help. Which is quite funny because I used to help people with their struggles but never ask for help when I was struggling.
Throughout the years, I learned two important lessons I want to share with you.
1/ There’s nothing wrong with asking for help or delegating
Doing everything on your own is just… too much. You can’t do everything on your own and you can’t control everything either. I know it because I lived it. Now, if I can ask for help and delegate, I don’t hesitate anymore!
Of course, asking for help is not always easy. You cannot seek help from anyone. And anyone cannot help you. But it doesn’t mean that you should give up on asking just because someone said no.
Most of the time, people are happy to help! If you don’t believe me, ask yourself: have I ever been annoyed because someone asked me to help him?
When someone comes to you, it’s because he or she trusts you. He or she believes you have the skills and knowledge to help him or her, right?
It’s the same when you delegate to professionals. You contact them because you know they can help you with your projects. You let them know that you like their work, that you have confidence in their abilities. That’s why you pay them. Then, they’ll be willing to meet your needs and expectations in the best way possible. Therefore, it’s definitely a win-win situation.
There are certain things you can do on your own easily and some others you can’t or don’t want to and that’s fine. Everyone has strengths, knowledge and areas of expertise. So why not using it?
Do you really believe that every successful artist does everything on his own? Of course, he doesn’t! So why would you?
If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, just take baby steps. You can ask a friend or a member of your family to help you with something.
Teamwork divides the task & multiplies the success
2/ To get an outside perspective helps have constructive criticism and stimulates creativity
Sharing a project you’re not satisfied with can help you improve it. Until I’ve experienced it myself, I had no idea how positive & powerful this can be.
People can help you get better. It also shows that you’re human, that you doubt — and people can relate to that. But it also shows your strength.
How? Well, because you’re not afraid to show that you have doubts and to ask for help. You also show that you want to overcome them and improve yourself. It’s inspiring & stimulating for both sides. It is also flattering for the one you call for backup! 😉
To ask for help creates the opportunity to brainstorm, improve and learn from each other & highlights a human dimension that people appreciate — they like to identify themselves.
Do you really think that successful artists do not make mistakes or fail? Of course, they do! But they don’t give up. They learn lessons and move forward.
So, if you are currently working on a project: a new song, a new video, or else — and you feel uncomfortable sharing it, DO IT ANYWAY! You may be surprised by the feedbacks you get.
Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success
— Arianna Huffington
Keep in mind that…
…we are stronger as a team and don’t be afraid of failure because it doesn’t really exist. You can only get better as long as you choose to.
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